Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Classes, Perspectives

It has been a while since I have written. Life has been very busy with students and projects. I have thought about what it means to be a strong person. I am sure your life has taken you down some rough roads the same way mine has and you have overcome the obstacles. Maybe, you are on the rough road now as you read this.

What I have learned is that every change starts with education. You can learn how your life can be different. You can learn how to be better. You can learn what other options are out there. While in an abusive relationship I thought for the longest time the abuse was my fault, somehow I was causing it. It was the library that saved my life: learning about boundaries, healthy relationships, emotional abuse made my life finally make sense. It was in those books I found a strength I didn’t know I possessed, a strength that came from hope for a better future, better life- a healthy one.

With education, I learned how to become healthier and how to leave.

On a lighter note, I recently started exercising for strength- again I turn to education to be effective. After reading books on women’s strength training and countless articles, I crafted a workout plan that I am putting into action. If the current plan fails, I have resources for backup plans and I have a program to graduate to once the current plan becomes easy.

Every change starts with education. We must KNOW what is possible to move towards it, education is the beginning catalyst of change. My journey into shooting started with education, it was through classes that I gained knowledge and confidence that led to me to here. Now I aim (ta da dum) to share that gift with others, providing the knowledge to increase their confidence and having fun in the process.

emPOWERed is the new motto for Live Love Load and Girlfriend Gun Party as it is ultimately the goal to empower others to better after education. It is my hope that all that visits Live Love Load and Girlfriend Gun Party will feel empowered.



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We are women who shoot.

Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Being A Woman, She Hunts

We are women who love to shoot. We learn, practice, train, and train some more. We shoot for self-defense, for sport, to hunt, for excellence. Yes, for excellence. When a woman decides to do something, it’s not so she can say she did it, but she did it well. We are proud of our targets. We want to share our experiences with you. We want to bring more women into the world of shooting. We long to share our joy with you. Help us encourage other women to start shooting, take a friend to the range this week. Share your picture in the Shooting Woman of the Month contest, participate in a women’s shooting group. We are Strong. Capable. Fierce. We are WOMEN.

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Women are in more danger with guns?

Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Being A Woman, Newsfeed

These articles just fire me up! These “studies” are touted around by gun control groups but the actual study is not looked at, the actual statistics and the reasons for the statistics. This is disgusting opinion articles disguised as journalism!

New Study Shows That For Women, Guns Still Offer More Danger Than Protection

Of course women who are in domestic violence situations have an increase in death with a gun in the household. There is no discrimination whether the gun belongs to the victim or the abuser. Of course an abuser will use a firearm to threaten and scare (even kill) their victim. It is a tool of POWER and CONTROL. The articles written about these ‘studies’ do not go into detail whether the abuse victim received firearm instruction and/or kept the firearm away from the abuser. Abuse situations are all about power and control, if the victim cannot keep any power and control over a firearm, it would be dangerous to have one in the house!

It is a shame that Ms. Magazine wants to discourage women from their American right to bear arms, to further the message more that woman shouldn’t defend themselves against their abusers because they may die. Of course they may die, they may die from being physically beat or stabbed with a kitchen knife!

If you are or know someone in an abusive relationship, reach out- talk to someone, contact area shelters and get out of the situation as soon as possible. You are NOT ALONE. You are STRONG. You can do ANYTHING. You are WORTHY. You are IMPORTANT. Everything that is going wrong in your relationship is NOT YOUR FAULT. There IS BETTER OUT THERE FOR YOU, even if you cannot see it right now. One moment, one decision at a time is all you need to do. Make the decision now to reach out.


Before You Drive With Your Firearm

Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Product Reviews, Training Notes

You want to have a firearm in your vehicle but you are afraid of how to secure it, especially with children in the vehicle with you. Each state has its own laws regarding carrying in your vehicle, consider your state laws as you look for viable options for your needs. There are many places within your vehicle to store a firearm, yet there are pros and cons to each.

A glove compartment can be a tricky place to store your firearm. Yes, it may have a lock- one that can be broken into with a bit of force. Plus, the glove box will be the first place a thief will look. You could measure your glove box and put a lock box inside of your locked glove box but this provides little security. A thief could still take the lock box and force it open elsewhere. There is no way to anchor a lock box to the glove compartment. Here are a few options for a lock box for your vehicle. The SnapSafe and Gun Vault models are amongst the well-known and most used.


Most of the lock boxes above have a security cable so you can lash them to the vehicle such as an anchor point on the floor or a secure bar under your seat. You can see these are not super expensive options and would secure your firearm from others being able to access it. How about if you want to be able to access your firearm?

I feel your console this is the most secure, accessible location for storing a firearm in your vehicle. These options are more expensive and most of them are tailored to your vehicle. The first option is an universal console vault that has a tray with cup holders to disguise it. Look at Console Vault’s options for your vehicle. Tuffy also has options for vehicle’s consoles.


Backseat in a truck? Only if you’re going to get a locked option… Tuffy has options for your vehicle. This option would not be easily accessible and most thieves wouldn’t waste their time lifting the backseat of a truck. With the across the seat option, you can also securely transport your long guns, no matter who your passengers are.

A trunk is also an option not easily accessible, hopefully you have anchor points within your space so you can tether your lock box to the vehicle. If you have a vehicle you feel comfortable modifying, you could anchor a larger vault to your trunk.

Lastly, no matter your storage options in your vehicle, leaving a firearm in your vehicle overnight or longer is not the safest option. You want to secure your firearms and leaving them in a vehicle unattended is not securing them. A vehicle is temporary storage, for when you have to go into the post office, liquor store, or your child’s school.

Exploring your options for securing your firearm is just what responsible gun owners do. If you need further convincing that securing your firearm in your vehicle is the best choice for you and your potential occupants, read this: https://www.thetrace.org/2016/03/kids-cars-unsecured-guns-deadly-mix/

Safety first,





Why I joined the NRA and why you should too.

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A couple of years ago, the only true exposure to the NRA was what I heard in the media and the fact my dad would get NRA phone calls about membership. I felt it was a lobbying giant for firearms without really understanding what that meant. I didn’t really care about the NRA.

When I homeschooled, I understood for the first time the importance of following the state legislature and speaking up when bills were being presented that threatened the freedom to homeschool. I wrote and called senators for the first time in my life to protect the parental right I feel every parent should have. I understood that as a republic we cannot leave the votes to our elected officials, we have to hold them accountable and share our voices as their constituents.

When I decided to seek firearm instruction, guess what organization had the most comprehensive, widely available, and most respected training programs? The NRA. What organization had programs for women? The NRA. What organization had competitive shooting programs also widely available and highly respected? The NRA. Here’s the brief history of the NRA.

The NRA-ILA is the political part of the NRA. ILA stands for Institute for Legislative Action. The NRA-ILA is a watch-dog over our Second Amendment right, which supports all other Amendments. If we cannot fight tyranny, what will stop it from tyranny from happening? The NRA-ILA stays on top of issues and gives the public access.

The NRA is so much more than what the media portrays them to be. You need to check it out. Here’s a sampling of benefits for joining the NRA. 

It is my hope that joining will change your life as much as it has mine! Click here to get the Live Love Load discount on your NRA membership!

HuffPost doesn’t understand the meaning of empowerment.

Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Being A Woman, Newsfeed

Alanna Vagianos writes that Dana Loesch and the NRA is misdirected in empowering women and says due to the statistics that have been used time and time again to say women shouldn’t have guns.

As The Cut pointed out, the presence of a gun in instances of intimate partner violence actually increases the risk of homicide for women by about 500 percent. That includes instances when the gun belongs to the victim.

Women in abusive relationships are also more likely to be murdered with a gun than “all other means combined,” according to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

To further debunk the ad’s message, Loesch and the NRA seem to paint rapists and abusers as strangers who lurk in dark corners waiting for their next victim. When it comes to perpetrators of sexual assault, that’s most definitely not the case.According to RAINN, 93 percent of sexual assault victims under the age of 18 know their attackers.

Of course! If the abuser in a relationship (because women can be abusers too) has access to a firearm and wishes to yield power and control over another, it is logical that any means of intimidation and control will be used. Financial, mental, and physical means will be used- a gun allows the abuser a means of intimidation without being too close to their victim.

There is not actual numbers of that statistic that allow for an understanding of how many victims of abuse owned their own firearm and still resulted in their death. Where are the numbers of the abuse victims that survived the ordeal and found solace in owning a firearm. What about the abuse victims that got away and bought a firearm for self-protection afterwards?

No. Let’s just retrain the men not to abuse or rape women. Yes, that is the answer. Let’s not allow Americans their 2nd Amendment right, let’s just change our mainstream culture which systematically objectifies women through all entertainment and advertising channels.

What a cop-out answer! Alanna, where is the empowerment you suggest is misdirected? Call for help and wait? Pray that you won’t be killed or hurt worse in the meantime?

The statistic of 93% sexual assault victims know their attacker, why wouldn’t you want a potential victim to know how to defend themselves? If a woman gets firearm training, she will also get situational awareness training, firearm safety training, and learn about other self-defense techniques. No, let’s just retrain the criminals who have no regard for others.

Stay Safe. Stay Aware.


“Oh, I’d love to do that,” she exclaims!

Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Being A Woman

There are very few women I have met that don’t want anything to do with guns. Most of the time, women wish they had time, or wish they knew where to learn when I ask them why they don’t shoot. The one thing I realize is that they consider it an optional pastime as I once did.

It’s for fun, novelty. The local gun store has a ‘Ladies’ Night’ and you get 50 rounds of .22 ammo, a 22. semi-auto and/or revolver pistol. You sit through a short presentation on grip and sights and then go onto the range to shoot. You leave with your target, a grin on your face, and a t-shirt. This may be an excellent way to introduce women to shooting for some but it is lacking in so many regards in my opinion.

On some level, everyone understands the need for personal safety and the reasons why someone would carry but there is a path to take between the thought and the action. First, I feel the solution is to make the path to action easier and more accessible. Women need to know who to talk to, I think this is the main reason women are not as involved as they could be. Shooting sports aren’t even televised or reported about!

For most women, shooting is a man’s world- we see it in the movies and our own male friends and husbands can talk hours about their ‘macho’ subjects. It is no longer just a man subject anymore, women who shoot, enjoy it and want to learn more. However, the cultural norm prevents women from crossing that invisible line, unless they see another woman interested and talking about it. I wish there was more media exposure to the shooting industry, that the 3-gun events were mainstream broadcasted and IDPA and other competitions were more mainstream.

As women shooters, I feel we have to share our experiences and encourage other women. I was hooked when I saw Julie Golob on Love at First Shot on NRA Women TV, how wonderful is that! I want to do that! The more I learn, the more I love, the more I want to share.  The more I see violence in the news, the more I want to arm others so they can protect themselves.

We have to change the “Oh, I’d love to do that!” to “Wow, that was awesome, I want to learn more!”

Stay Safe. Stay Aware.


I’m Terrified Of Guns, But I Felt Like A BADASS Shooting An AR-15

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It can be a bit intimidating trying something new, especially something it’s been taught to be afraid of. Are there rules to follow? Sure, but for yours and others protection. I’m sharing her story because we were all there. It’s short and sweet and she’s hooked!


Woman Power in Politics

Posted on Posted in Advocacy, Being A Woman

3770e3b58f4b7e9a5872ce818d4870e6Women have so much power, we can rally people together not just on an intelligence level but also speak to people’s emotions. Sadly, there is a huge push to “mother” the nation with gun control. I feel that women for the 2nd Amendment must stand up and speak out. Of course, evil doings when others are killed shocks us, makes us want to act, punish those that would hurt others, and we must do everything to prevent it from happening again but absolute control is not the way.


Education is the only way. We must call for gun education everywhere, as an American is deplorable that gun education is not taught in schools. I know, I know- the Department of Education has already messed with the political tone and history taught to our children. American history shouldn’t have political slant. That’s a whole other post…I digress.


The Right to Bear Arms is American, 100%- our children should be taught why and gun safety education at every age. Women have powerful voices, women are passionate about their causes and can rally others easily. Men can come across as condescending, patronizing, and rude while if a woman says the same exact message, it can be a call to action. Hillary Clinton’s popularity has nothing to do with Hillary’s politics or record- it is about what she is saying and how she makes people feel.


As women, we must speak out. We must get involved in the political conversation. We must help or form political organizations reach the constituents in our areas. We have voices that should be heard. We can be just as loud about our right to carry as others are about their right to choose. Find organizations in your state, get involved. Be vocal on social media. Help educate your friends, family and advocate!


The NRA doesn’t have control of any legislature- that is spin. The NRA lobbies for the 2nd Amendment and fights to protect it. End of story. The NRA also educates and empowers and has been the sole organization that promotes gun safety education on a mass level. I am the NRA. I will fight. Will you?


Join the D.C. Project: http://www.agirlandagun.org/dc-project/

The D.C. Project is a nonpartisan initiative bringing 50 women, one from each state, to Washington, DC, to establish relationships with their legislators, and reveal the faces and stories of firearms owners and 2nd Amendment supporters.

The Second Amendment Foundation (SAF) is dedicated to promoting a better understanding about our Constitutional heritage to privately own and possess firearms. To that end, we carry on many educational and legal action programs designed to better inform the public about the gun control debate.


The Citizens Committee for the Right to Keep and Bear Arms is dedicated to protecting your firearms rights. Our role is to educate grass root activists, the public, legislators and the media. Our programs are designed to help all Americans understand the importance of the Second Amendment and its role in keeping Americans free.


Firearms Policy Coalition (FPC) is a 501(c)4 grassroots, non-partisan, public benefit organization.

  • To protect and defend the Constitution of the United States and the People’s rights, privileges and immunities deeply rooted in this Nation’s history and tradition, especially the inalienable, fundamental, and individual right to keep and bear arms;
  • To protect, defend, and advance the means and methods by which the People of the United States may exercise those rights, including, but not limited to, the acquisition, collection, transportation, exhibition, carry, care, use, and disposition of arms for all lawful purposes, including, but not limited to, self-defense, hunting, and service in the appropriate militia for the common defense of the Republic and the individual liberty of its citizens;
  • To foster and promote the shooting sports and all lawful uses of arms; and
  • To foster and promote awareness of, and public engagement in, all of the above.

Keep and Bear Arms is a grassroots movement of the people, by the people, and for the people.  It is a call to action, a call for self-education, and a 21 gun salute to the many good men and women who fought and died to bring America into being.

National Association for Gun Rights   With our rapidly expanding membership of 4.5 million grassroots activists, the National Association for Gun Rights has led the charge to halt the radical anti-gun agenda across the nation. Accepting NO COMPROMISE on the issue of gun control, NAGR works tirelessly to hold politicians accountable for their anti-gun views, and has made great strides in protecting and preserving the Second Amendment. But our effectiveness in the battle against the gun grabbers depends entirely on the support of gun rights supporters like you.

There are many more!

Learn about their mission, learn how you can help, do more than donate money, get involved. Your state has advocate groups that need you to volunteer. Be the woman that stands up and rallies others together. Let’s drown out the message of more control and less personal freedoms! Together we can do it!

click here to find out more about NRA membership


She’s Packin’!

Posted on 2 CommentsPosted in Advocacy, Being A Woman

Very soon social media with be abuzz with She’s Packin’ photos, to bring awareness to women who carry personal protection devices. This campaign is close to all of our hearts because concealed carry is just that, concealed. We want to share with other women that they can protect themselves, see what we carry, you can too!

Carrying women will be sharing a photo amongst their friends, groups, and family. The group of women involved in spreading the message and bringing awareness that women are just as serious about personal protection as men, and want for women to feel empowered. Even if another woman decides to start carrying pepper spray or a self-defense tool on their keychain, it’s one tool more than she had before.

If you see a She’s Packin’ photo, please feel free to submit your own photo in the comments below or jump into the conversation! We are more than happy to talk about the products pictured and answer any questions you have. If you would like to get involved, email me jessica@liveloveload.com, or private message Live Love Load via social media and I will get your She’s Packin’ photo ready to share!

The photo with this post is from Henn Holsters and Tactical, owner Hannah shared her own photo for this project. Please visit her Etsy shop for more options that may fit your conceal carry needs. Henn Holsters is also on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, so please feel free to Like & Share her posts.

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Stay safe. Stay Aware.